It's no secret that long-term relationships tend to lose their
lustre. However, there are ways to return your relationship
back to those early
days of romance. Here's how:
Share fantasies. If you want to spice up your sex
life and have your needs met in the bedroom, then speak
up and share your fantasies with your spouse. You can also
create a fantasy box. To do so, write down your
fantasies on slips of paper, and then store them in a box
in your boudoir. Whenever things get a little too monotonous,
simply pull that piece of paper and act it out!
Improve your friendships. Go see the latest chick
flick with your friends, and tell your partner to go do
something with his pals as well. Couples need outside lives
and interests otherwise it's certain that they will
wear on each others nerves! When you get bogged down
in the roles of mother/father or wife/husband, you lose
track of who you are. Return to those early days by keeping
up your own friendships and interests.
Get more sleep. Sounds simple, right? However, more
sleep equals a better mood, more energy, and trimmer waistlines
all of which can add up to increased libidos! So,
forget about all your late night soaps, put the kids to
bed a little early, and cuddle with your spouse in bed.
Extra shut-eye goes a long way.
Dont try to do it all. Find a way to save
yourself time and energy. Maybe this means hiring a housekeeper,
or saying no to friends who ask for too many favors. You
might feel selfish at first, but you cant take care
of other people if you dont take care of yourself
Try a new date. When you try something new (such
as eating a new cuisine, watching a new play, etc.), you
get a little boost of adrenaline and excitement that can
spill over into the bedroom as well! So, on your next date,
dont go to the same old restaurant get out
of your comfort zone and push your boundaries!
Appreciate your partner. Thankful people are happy
people and thankful couples are happy couples. Appreciate
one thing about your partner every day, and then speak up
and let him hear how magnificent/handsome/thoughtful you
think he is. And the good news? The more you appreciate
him, the more he will appreciate you in return!
Put some effort into your appearance. It's not vain
to want to look well-groomed. A pleasant appearance and
positive self-esteem are instant happiness boosters and
libido enhancers! So, hit up the salon for a new hairdo,
buy sexy new lingerie, or luxuriate in the bath and give
yourself an at-home manicure or pedicure. Nothing amps up
the libido like self-confidence!
Remember, romance isnt something that happens organically.
Most of the time, you have to work to keep your relationship
exciting, fun, and passionate. Surprise your partner with
romantic gestures, and keep your relationship fresh and