Trouble in your marriage
can cause trouble in bed, but not necessarily the kind
of trouble that first comes to mind.
New research has found that women in happy marriages
tend to sleep more soundly than women in unhappy marriages.
In fact, women with good marriages have about 10 percent
greater odds of getting a decent night of shut-eye compared
to women who aren't happy with their spouse.
"Marriage can be good for your sleep if it's a happy
one. But, being in an unhappy marriage can be a risk
factor for sleep disturbance," said the study's lead
author, Wendy M. Troxel, a psychologist at the University
of Pittsburgh.
The million-dollar question, Troxel said, is which
comes first -- does the unhappy marriage lead to poor
sleep, or does poor sleep contribute to a bad marriage?
"We have future studies planned, and we need to tease
that out," she said. "If you're not sleeping, you're
more irritable, have lower frustration and tolerance
levels, so it's possible that could affect the marriage.
But we suspect it's in the other direction," that the
bad marriage is affecting the quality of sleep because
you're trying to sleep next to someone you may be fighting
with, and that's stressful.
"If you're stressed or anxious, it can have an effect
on your sleep," agreed Dr. Ana Krieger, director of
the New York University Sleep Disorders Center in New
York City.
Troxel and her colleagues reviewed data on about 2,000
married women who participated in the Study of Women's
Health Across the Nation (SWAN). The women were an average
age of 46 years. Just over half were white, 20 percent
were black, 9 percent were Hispanic, 9 percent were
Chinese, and 11 percent were Japanese.
All of the women reported their sleep quality, the
state of their marriage, how often they had difficulty
falling asleep, if they stayed asleep, and how early
they woke up.
Happily married women had less trouble getting to sleep,
had fewer sleep complaints, had more restful sleep and
were less likely to wake up early or awaken in the middle
of the night than women whose marriages were less than
ideal.
Even after the researchers adjusted the data to account
for other factors known to disturb sleep, the researchers
found that happily married women still slept more soundly.
And, these findings appeared to hold up across racial
lines. The only groups that the findings weren't statistically
significant for were Chinese and Japanese women, but
Troxel suspects this may be because there weren't as
many Chinese or Japanese women in the study as white
and black women.
Troxel was expected to present her findings June 9
at Associated Professional Sleep Societies annual meeting,
in Baltimore.
"All marriages aren't created equal, and having a high
quality marriage may be good for sleep, whereas an unhealthy
marriage is a potent source of stress. You could be
sleeping with the object of your hostility," Troxel
said.
If you have a lot of stress from your marriage or another
source, such as your job, Krieger said you need to try
to fix the situation that is causing the anxiety. If
you can't change the stressful situation, she recommended
trying to change how you perceive the stress. Good ways
to help you relax are meditation and yoga, she said.
Troxel said that if you're in an unhappy marriage,
marriage therapy -- or individual therapy if your spouse
won't go to therapy -- can be helpful.
She also recommended practicing good sleep habits,
such as going to bed at the same time and waking up
at the same time every day.