Are Men Losing Their Interest in Sex?
The "Not tonight darling, I've got a headache" syndrome
is usually associated with women when they're not in the mood, but
lately the excuse is increasingly being used by men to put off sex,
according to a survey.
The new poll by independent charity the Men's Health Forum has
found that 15 per cent of men aged between 18 and 59 admitted
to a "lack of interest in sex".
Relationship-counselling service Relate has revealed that there's
a 40 percent increase in the number of men saying they had gone
off sex, compared with 10 years ago.
All the above men with low libido don't face any physical problems;
it's just that they do not want to have sex. Research has found
that the growing trend of the drop in male desire is a direct
result of women's changing role in society.
Men get overwhelmed with the modern woman, who is confident and
comfortable with her own sexual needs and desires.
Apart from that men are bombarded with an overload of sexual
images on the Internet, cable TV and in magazines, so much so,
that it may be leading them to prefer the ever-ready fantasy to
Renowned Chicago-based relationships therapist Michele Weiner-Davis
caused a furore in the US by claiming that at least 25 per cent
of all men suffer from low desire.
It was, "America's best-kept secret," the Sun quoted
her as saying. Michael Gilbert, author of The Disposable Male
, said: "Western men feel marginalised.
"In a third of American homes where both partners work,
women earn more than men. This tears at the fabric of male sexuality."
And the problem is further worsened by the number of overworked
men who are turning to alcohol to relax after work, and it has
been revealed earlier that booze interferes with testosterone.
Phillip Hodson, a psychotherapist and author of Men: An Investigation
Into The Emotional Male , said: "Sex is all about play. Libido
comes out of a moment of idleness and down time. But British men
work the longest hours in Europe. Sex and the clock don't go well
"Men drink because it's a short-cut to relaxation - but
alcohol dampens the libido.
February 5, 2010