While a man's sex drive is primarily based on fairly non-complex emotional mechanisms for arousal, a woman's desire for sex is based on a complex interaction of many components affecting intimacy, including physical well-being, emotional well-being, experiences, beliefs, lifestyle and current relationship. This often creates tension between couples whose motivations for intimacy may be polarized. From physiological to psychological factors, here are the top 10 sex-drive killers.
With some basic lifestyle changes and sexual techniques you can overcome these problems easily. At the same time, it is equally important to know the main factors that affect your libido.
1) Erectile dysfunctions: Poorly understood and mismanaged, erectile dysfunction is another major factor that can affect your sex drive. According to reports, this condition is very common in men above the age of 40 but only a few cases come to light. This is primarily due to lack of knowledge as most people believe that it is a psychological rather than a physiological condition that cannot be treated. However, on the contrary, the condition is eminently curable with the help of experienced health professionals in both holistic and conventional areas of treatment.
2) Menopause: In women, physical changes like menopause can affect physical intimacy and sexual drive. Although, menopause itself does not affect your ability to have sex, the reduced hormone levels may cause certain discomforts like vaginal dryness and pain during sex. This may also prolong your period to reach an orgasm. Estrogen helps maintain the health of your vaginal tissues and your interest in sex. But estrogen levels drop during the transition to menopause. At the same time, women may also experience a decrease in the hormone testosterone, which boosts sex drive in men and women alike. Although many women continue to have satisfying sex during menopause and beyond, some women experience a lagging libido during this hormonal change.
3) Medications. Many prescription medications including blood pressure medications and chemotherapy drugs are notorious libido killers. Antihistamines also can diminish your sex drive. You would be surprised how many medicaitons list decreased libido as a side effect. Speak with your doctor about reducing or eliminating any medications you are on that are causing problems in this area.
4) Depression: If you are constantly popping antidepressant pills or if you are suffering from signs of clinical depression, it's no wonder that your sex life is suffering a major set-back. One of the major hallmarks of depression is reduced interest in sex. Be aware that both depression and antidepressant pills can affect your libido. Thus, it is advisable to treat the condition at the earliest.
5) Less sleep: A consistent sleep pattern is another vital factor for boosting your sex life. In case you depend only on weekends to catch up on your sleep, you don't have to search for any other cause for your decreased libido. There is a direct connection between sleeplessness and reduced sexual urge. Researchers believe that fewer sleeping hours can trigger the production of the stress hormone cortisol which plays a major role in reducing the testosterone levels.
6) Parenting: It's true that parenting is a tough job and can even affect your physical and mental health at times. But, did you know that it can even affect your sex life? No, we are not talking at a hormonal level. It is just the fact that while taking care of your baby, you often don't find the zeal, time or energy to get intimate with your partner. Try hiring a part-time caretaker or plan for some "quickies" during your baby's nap time.
7) Pregnancy and breast-feeding. Hormone changes during pregnancy, just after having a baby and during breast-feeding can put a damper on sex drive. Of course, hormones aren't the only factor affecting intimacy during these times. Fatigue, changes in body image and the pressures of carrying -- or caring for -- a new baby can all contribute to changes in your sexual desire.
8) Alcohol consumption: Excessive alcoholic consumption is linked to impotence and infertility in both the sexes. It is true that a few sips of your favorite wine helps you open up and puts you in the mood to indulge but it can also freeze your sex drive at the same time. Long term overuse of alcohol, in particular, affects the nervous system and interferes with impulses between the pituitary glands in the brain and the genitals. In fact, recent clinical researches have indicated that alcohol abuse can cause permanent damage to the nerves in the penis thereby leading to impotence. So, as long as you practice moderation, you can protect yourself from such conditions.
9) Relationship problems: Marital or relationship problems like lack of trust and proper communication can act as major hindrance to experiencing enjoyable and satisfying sex. Women, in particular, are closely tuned to their emotional sides at the time of sexual intimacy. Hence, it is vital to solve all issues like infidelity, unsolved conflicts or fight and poor connection to steer your sex life in the right direction. For this, you can even seek professional counseling to sort out any personal indifference between you and your partner.
10) Nutritional Deficiencies
: An often overlooked area of sex drive is nutrition. The toxic nature of most processed foods do not allow men or women to fluorish hormonally when it comes to sexual function. Stay away from as many processed foods as possible, especially those with toxic additives. Try herbal supplementation. Men taking fenugreek can boost their sex drive by at least a quarter
, researchers have found. Horny goat weed (so-called natural Viagra) is also very effective.