April 1, 2012
Change The Way You See Your Life and You Change The World
Controlling your desires and being content with moderate and gradual progress means you will rarely experience major failure. Excessive desire is referred to as “attachment”, and it is only by getting rid of attachments that ultimate happiness can be achieved. This is a path to happiness that is open to everyone.
Those who really understand themselves are very difficult to trap. Conversely, it is easy to trick and bring down those who have no knowledge of their limitations. All that is required is to lay a trap in their path and they will fall right into it. This often happens to people who believe they possess infinite ability. So look at your strengths and weakness, as well as those of people around you. When you arrive at an obstacle, simply think of it as a mater of controlling your desires. Moderation is the key.
In many cases people are happier if they never achieve what they desire. For example, many elected officials aspire to lead their countries one day, but for most, it will turn out better for them if this never happens. Once a person has achieved the highest office, that politician is beset with comments about what he does and doesn’t do; the leader is criticized for trifling matters and wonders why this should be...Imagine not being able to walk out of your house unless you are surrounded on all sides by guards. In the end, what is seen as an unparalleled honour can lead to the greatest happiness.
The same can be said of everyone’s desires. For example, people who are successful in their careers will probably have difficulty being the best husbands or wives. Some people feel unhappy because their children do not appear to be very bright, while other parents whose children are brilliant lose the ability to converse with them, leading to inadequacy and sadness.
We face limitations, but we have none. The causes of our limitations are found within us, but their boundaries are often set by other people’s objective opinions. If you feel you are unable to get ahead in life, despite all your efforts up to now, you may need to look at yourself more objectively.
You may decide not to aim for material success. You could be content to work at a job that is not overly demanding but pleases you. If you are satisfied with such employment, you could go on to find meaning in life through other areas. Should you decide, however, that you want to move forward and perhaps own a large business some day, you will not be satisfied with your present routine job. It is entirely up to you to choose the sort of life you will lead, but if you continue to feel that despite all your efforts you cannot move on to the next stage in life, it could be that you are not being realistic about elements of your own nature. This is when it is important to see yourself the way others see you...
When you realise and fully accept that life is eternal, you have received the greatest treasure imaginable. Hardship or distress you encounter in life represents growth for your soul, and even if you struggle to solve a problem, you will be able to make it a great experience. You will awaken to the true purpose and meaning of life, and this knowledge will help you in the growth of your soul.
By Ryuho Okawa