This is not to say that real food does not make a difference, too. Pump a kid full of sugar everyday and he’ll be more likely to get diabetes. Let him eat McDonalds everyday and they’ll be more likely to become obese. Let them eat GMO processed foods and their body will turn into intestinal laboratories. All of these things can be damaging but for the most part can be overcome. But take away daddy and an alarming amount of children don’t stand a chance.
Divorce rates and fatherless homes have increased steadily since 1960. Here is some of the data.
2010 U.S. Census Bureau. Living Arrangements of Children Under 18 Years Old: 1960 to Present; Father Facts, 2011:
In 1960, 87.7% of children lived with two parents. 9.1% living with one parent. 3.2% living with relatives.
In 1980, 76.7% of children lived with two parents. 19.7% living with one parent and 3.7% living with relatives.
In 1990, 72.5% of children lived with two parents. 24.7% living with one parent and 3.1% living with relatives.
In 2000, 69.1% of children lived with two parents. 26.7% living with one parent and 4.2% living with relatives.
In 2010, 69.4% of children lived with two parents. 26.6% living with one parent and 4.1% living with relatives.
What This Means
The results are staggering suicide rates, murder rates, school dropout rates, drug abuse, sexual abuse and more all sharply rise when the father is not around. There is no cure like an involved father.
At the end of the article I will provide links to the many alarming statistics that exist. Right now, we will focus on the common sense factors involved in the family unit, which is the life source much of the population is fortunate enough to experience.
Think about when dad goes to work and provides for the family. This allows the mom to spend more time at home, with the kids and provide a mature, intellectual construct for the kids to work from.
While more and more people are able to work from home, the typical situation still remains where the parent(s) work away from the home. If the mom (or dad) does not work then there is a parent around the home and the kids nearly 100% of the time.
If both parents work it is likely that they are able to alternate shifts or accommodate to allow for minimal overall time away from the kids. In addition, with a stable two parent home the likelihood of living close to relatives, such as grandparents, also rises resulting in stable baby-sitting situations.
It goes to show that while a biological father's involved presence is critical on an individual level for each child, it is the overall cohesion of a traditional family unit that is the driving factor.
My interactions on Facebook on my personal account (as opposed to my site page of like-minded people) have varied reception. One common defense is pointing out that ‘I turned out just fine’ and others have too.
President Obama and Clinton, for example, came from fatherless homes (and, gulp, Hitler). Avoid this back-and-forth and go to the stats.
The debates need to be handled gently because conflict acts as a barrier.
Another difficult topic: 70% of divorces are initiated by women and mostly due to ‘unsatisfactory’ reasons. This means that there was no physical abuse.
If no kids are involved then to me it’s just a breakup with an expensive party in-between. But if kids are involved and it is a safe home environment, possibly mothers should look at the linked stats below and then make the decision whether to divorce or stay married.
Then there are the men. Men now know that if they are absentee dads the state will likely aid the families with food money (women know this too). Knowing this, the role of the father as the provider is filled. This would explain how men morally justify leaving their families and how women can live with divorce. It could be argued that the increased roles of women in the workplace allow for this but the numbers show that divorced moms make much less money on average and are more likely to live at the poverty level, although in some instances this is true.
At any rate, men cannot be forgotten in their role in this mess. First of all, pick your spouse wisely. Make sure she understands, before kids, that the role of the father is important. Men need to fight for as much time with their kids as possible (if this is an issue). Men need to take advantage of whatever amount of time is available and make it work the best they can. A willingly absentee father is committing a crime upon our society that is immense. 10% of divorced fathers fall into the deadbeat dad category.
It’s not about blaming one group or another. It’s about looking at societal factors and what can be done to reverse them. Our public health depends on it.
Below are some links that detail the affects of absentee biological fathers:
Jesse Herman founded The Natural Independent and is a full-time blogger, video producer, web developer and family man. His work has been seen on Mercola, Mediaite, National Post and more.