When It Comes To Expectations of Others, Make Sure You Understand These Three Things
Have you ever wondered how much of your anger, frustration, stress, disappointment, anger, irritation, comes from one little thing? It's called expectation and defines how you view all of your experiences. Before you cast judgement on others, make sure you understand these three things first.
There is an intriguing relationship between suggestion, cognition, and behavior. Psychological science's most intriguing findings may be driven, at least in part, by suggestion and expectations.
We build these expectations in our heads of what other people should do, how they should act, what their lives should be like and how they should behave, but it's not real...it all in our minds, and when we let our minds and ego get the best of us, we become disappointed when those fantasies clash with reality.
Let go of any expectations of yourself that will limit your growth. If you hold high expectations for how others should behave, you will often be disappointed if they do not represent themselves in the manner you expected. It is only your expectations of people that cause you to judge them which ultimately is a judgement of yourself.
Far too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them. They live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, or what their friends, their enemies, their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling.
They are so busy with pleasing everybody and living up to other people's expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They've thought about the lives of others so much, that they have forgotten who they are.
They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need, and eventually they forget about themselves. Somebody's definition of you does not define who you are.
What's a life without expectations like? It means you accept reality as it is, and people as they are, without expectations, without trying to force people into the containers you have for them, seeing things as they are. It's a life where you don't need to be disappointed or frustrated or angry -- or if you are, you accept it, and then let it go.
That's not to say you never act -- you can act in a way that's in accordance with your values, and influence the world, but never have an expectation of how the world will react to your actions.
So as much as you may wish to antagonize or disagree
with a hot temper because somebody's actions don't
meet your expectations, make sure you understand
these three things:
1) People are who they are and don't need your approval.
2) People don't need to apologize
for being themselves, and moreover
you should apologize for asking them
to be something else.
3) When you stop expecting people to meet your approval, you begin to like them for who they are rather than who you want them to be.
You have one life -- this one right now -- you must live it, own it, and especially don't let other people's opinions distract you from your path.
‘I am open to the guidance of synchronicity, and do not let expectations hinder my path.' ~Dalai Lama
Josh Richardson is blogger, healer, and a constant pursuer of the natural state of human consciousness.