and Students Should Minimize
Stress During The Holiday Season
-- The holidays can be a time of great togetherness and pleasure
for families, but it can also cause some stress.
For example, this is the first
time since the start of school that many college students and
parents will be with each other for an extended period and that
can lead to stressful situations, says information from St. Lawrence
Students and parents may have conflicting
views about how much time the student will spend with the family
over the holidays. Parents may think their child should spend
most of the time with the family, while the student may want to
spend a lot of time visiting friends.
Parents may also be reluctant to
view their child as an adult and make appropriate alterations
to home rules. That can be frustrating for the student, who is
now living as an independent adult at college.
Students may also be stressed by
family changes. For example, parents may have decided to divorce
or separate or single parents may have new companions or have
new hobbies or interests.
Here are some tips on how to minimize
holiday stress for parents and college students.
Parents and students need to plan
ahead. Parents have to think about the needs of the student who
is looking for a respite from academic demands. Students need
to consider the needs of their parents, especially their desire
to spend time together.
Students should include family
time in their holiday planning and should let parents know their
plans before they arrive home for the holidays. That gives parents
fair warning about how much time their children will be away from
the family while they're at home.
Parents and students should discuss
house rules and come to mutual agreement on how they should be
changed in light of the student's newfound independence.
If poor grades are a point of contention
between students and parents, both sides should establish times
when any talk about grades is off-limits.
If you're a student with a poor
family situation, consider seeing if a friend's family is willing
to "adopt" you for the holidays. Or you can make other
special plans that don't involve your family.
The State University of New York
has more advice for students who are home
for the holidays.
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